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| Dr Jagjot Singh |
Parents can actively reduce exam-related distress by focusing on the following:
1. Normalize efforts over outcomes
- Reinforce that marks do not determine identity or lifelong success.
- Acknowledge consistency, discipline and sincerity.
- Avoid comparisons with peers or relatives.
2. Safeguard sleep and structure
- Ensure at least 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep.
- Discourage last-minute overnight cramming.
- Maintain a calm, predictable home environment.
3. Recognize early warning signs
- Sudden withdrawal or silence
- Frequent tearfulness or irritability
- Loss of appetite or sleep disturbance
- Expressions of hopelessness or excessive self-criticism
4. Encourage regulated breaks
- Support short daily walks or light physical activity.
- Allow brief, healthy social interaction.
- Avoid framing rest as lack of seriousness.
5. Create a psychologically safe space at home
- Ask open-ended, non-threatening questions.
- Listen without immediately correcting or advising.
“During board exams, children are not just studying textbooks, they are battling fear of failure, fear of judgment, and sometimes fear of losing parental approval. What they need most is a psychologically safe space at home. A safe space is where a child can say, ‘I’m scared’ without being told to be stronger, where they can admit they are struggling without being compared, and where their effort is acknowledged even if outcomes are uncertain. When parents replace pressure with presence, and criticism with curiosity, they strengthen resilience far more than any coaching class ever can.” says Dr Jagjot Singh, Consultant, Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Fortis Ludhiana
If distress persists, marked by insomnia, emotional numbness, withdrawal, or hopeless thoughts, timely consultation with a counsellor or psychiatrist can prevent long-term consequences. Board exams are temporary. A child’s emotional health is enduring. This exam season, let reassurance, stability and unconditional support be the true markers of success.
